Why Are Natural African-American Hairstyles Professionally Controversial?

Why Are Natural African-American Hairstyles Professionally Controversial?

What is your deepest fear?

Kinky, Kurly, Naturally..Me, the blog is not only about hair, it's also about the journey...mostly about the journey. Kinky, Kurly, Naturally Me... is a platform for me to share my journey and to inspire others in their life's mission.  Here is another inspirational piece that I have added to my journal and use it as an affirmation!  Enjoy!

Our Deepest Fear

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others."

~ Marianne Williamson - from "A Return To Love" ~

Black Women Short Hairstyles Going Natural

Black Women Short Hairstyles Going Natural

It's my 5 month Nappiversary!!!! My Top 10 things about being natural!

It's been 5 months since my big chop!  I can remember when my TWA was short and cute. Now it's grown and sexy! I was always on youtube studying other natural sistas, trying all of the  products that were on the reviews. It seems as if it were yesterday.  I couldn't wait until my 6 months nappiversary, because then it meant I was halfway there.  It has been such a great ride.  I have learned a lot, not only about myself, but about other women.  I have made new connections and friends, joined communities and supported other sista's dreams.  Ladies, you don't have to go natural or cut  your hair to start living your life.  Just do it!  

With that being said here are my top 10 things I have learned a lot about being natural.

1. Wash and go is a very misleading term.  Just ask my hair.
2. You must always treat your hair with TLC or she will turn on you.
3. Being natural gives you validation for being a product junkie.  I' m  just stating facts!
4.You can never own enough pairs of earrings no matter how much you try to convince yourself otherwise.
5. You start smiling at other natural sista in the street and we all give each other that look as if we are part of some secret society.
6.There really is no such thing as a bad hair day. Well...at least not yet!
7.  Don' t really care if I get caught in the rain without and umbrella.  Water is my friend!  Hot dang!!!!
8. Love it when someone asks, "what did you do to your hair?"  My response, "Not a damn thing! " LOL!!!
9. It cost a whole lot less from when I had a relaxer and was a slave to the salon.
10. I love being Kinky, Kurly, Naturally...Me!!!

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Don't be afraid to color outside of the lines!

Don't be afraid to color outside of the lines! Go with the flow and dance as if not no one were watching, sing as if no one were listening, and live everyday as if as if it were your last! 

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During a photo shoot last weekend with some beautiful women, I learned a lot about myself.  Once again, I don't know who I am, but what I am. I am a mommy and have to get out of "mommy mode" when I am having "me time" with the girls!  It took me a while to get comfortable in front of the camera and comfortable with just being...naturally me!  It has been a  fantastic journey and a wonderful ride so far. I am growing, learning about myself and embracing my womanhood like I have never done before.  Thanks to so many supportive women by my side offering encouragement and giving me positive reinforcement.

I know the journey  will not always be as smooth as it has been.  Still a lot of growing pains and bumps in the road to come.  But, I have learned to now see the glass as half full and to not be afraid to color outside of the lines!

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Medical News: Popular Hairstyles May Cause Hair Loss in Black Women - in Dermatology, General Dermatology from MedPage Today

I think we have known this for a while. But, now it is a medically proven fact! Medical News: Popular Hairstyles May Cause Hair Loss in Black Women - in Dermatology, General Dermatology from MedPage Today

40 For 40

This year most of my friends, myself included, are turning 40.  I got this idea from one of my sista-friends, Shaunda.  For Shaunda's 40th birthday, she had a 40 for 40.  Starting on her birthday, Shaunda did 40 things for 40 days.  Something like a bucket list, but not as intense.

I  have decided to do the same thing but with a different twist.  However, I am doing a 40 before 40 and then a 40 after 40.  Huh?  Well, there are somethings that I want to do before I turn 40 that I have never done. These are little pleasurable items and accomplishments, such as walking across the Brooklyn Bridge.  I have lived in New York all of my life and have never, ever, walked across the Brooklyn Bridge.

 I, also, want to take a helicopter ride over NYC.  Tourist come to the NYC and take advantage of  our  atttractions and what this wonderful city has to offer.  New Yorkers take some of these attractions for granted.  It's the little things in life that count.  Another item on my list that is near and dear to my heart, is to go ice skating with my daughters.  They have gone ice skating, but I have never participated.  I was always the spectator.  You get the  idea...it's the little things that bring us personal pleasure, the shoulda, coulda, woulda's.

So... my 40 after 40 list is more goal orientated, such as finishing my Masters and starting my own business.  These are the goals that I have started and will finish in the next 5 years.  It's about making goals and accomplishing those goals.  It's about living life to the fullest and becoming a well rounded person. I am looking  at turning 40 as my new lease on life.   I'm a little bit older, a whole lot wiser and most definitely, sexier!!! Does this mean that I am officially a "grown-up?"  LOL!!!   Carpe Diem!

            Life Really Does Begin at 40!